Health, There are some things that go on the New Year's resolution
list every year. This means, despite being on the resolution list for an entire
year already, they still have not been accomplished. What are these universal
desires people have, and why aren't they being met? Here are five goals most
people never reach in life, but hope they do.
Having the perfect body
Losing weight is the number one goal of most Westerners, and
it is easy to see that it isn't being reached. Weight loss products are some of
the most successful products offered for sale, even though they often don't
perform the way they claim they will. Why aren't people losing weight? Because
they look at it as a process with a beginning and an end. If they do x, they'll
reach y and they can go on with their lives. Losing weight or gaining muscle,
or changing your appearance in any meaningful way takes a permanent change in
lifestyle. Once a successful formula for change has been found, it has to be
maintained forever in order to really achieve success. People are focusing on
the end result: weight loss, instead of focusing on changing the underlying problem:
self-discipline. This isn't to say that people are overweight because they are
too lazy to stop eating; weight loss is infinitely more complex than that. It
is important to note that the true change needs to happen within the mind
before it can happen in the body. These inner changes include developing
healthy habits, gaining self-confidence, and taking responsibility for what
happens in your life.
Reaching their creative potential
Talent is common. Even great talent isn't unique. If talent
is so common, why doesn't everyone reach their potential? Reaching one's
potential takes much more than talent. Nearly everyone has an idea for a novel
they want to write; nearly no one actually writes that novel. It takes
perseverance, tenacity, confidence, humility, and the ability to try again to
succeed and reach your potential. And, just like weight loss, it is something
that never stops. A successful novelist doesn't rest once they have published
their first novel. They continue with the dedication, passion, and confidence
that got them that far. Because even the most successful people haven't yet
reached their potential. Potential grows as you feed it with passion, practice,
and devotion, and continues to do so until you die. Reaching your potential
means devoting yourself to your craft and never, ever giving up.
Making enough money
How much money is "enough"? I bet you can remember
a time when you made half as much money as you do now, when the amount you
currently bring in seemed so enormous that you thought if only you could reach
it, you could finally rest. So why is it still not enough? There are practical,
logical reasons, of course, why your money doesn't add up like you thought it
would. You've probably got a larger family or more responsibilities than you
used to. The biggest reason people never reach that final threshold of having
enough money is that they allow their lifestyles to expand in direct
correlation to how much money they have. To allow the money you have to become
enough, or even more than enough, you need to know what is truly important to
you. Spend money on that, on your responsibilities, and nothing else. Being
mindful and aware of where your money is going is the only way to finally feel
like you have enough.
Finding Love
Experts estimate that 50% of people end up getting divorced
and countless other people never even get married. Finding love and getting
married is important to a lot of people, but yet so few people seem to reach
this goal. Relationship building is hard an often time consuming. People get
busy with work and distracted by technology and entertainment. Instead of going
out to new places, people are also content with meeting up with the same
friends. Also, people often accept their weaknesses rather than fight to
improve themselves in ways that make them more attractive to the opposite
gender. To improve the odds of finding the right person, commit time to
improving yourself as well as trying different things to meet more people.
“Arriving”
Then, you might finally arrive. This is the nebulous
sensation of having reached your desires. Everyone wants to feel like they've
arrived, but the sensation is so vague, most people don't even know what that
would look like. The secret to finally having your desires is not to achieve every
point on your long list of goals. In fact, once you've achieved those goals, it
is likely you will feel disappointed, because the feeling of success doesn't
automatically come with concrete success. The only way to feel like you have
everything you need is to be aware of each moment as it passes. Live every
moment with the courage to face it honestly. Stop trying to change what you
have. Accept life as it is. That is the secret to arriving. After that, the
grass will never be greener anywhere else.
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